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A Fast Flirting for Men and Women

When you’re looking for love in a hurry there’s no reason to wait. Head to the hottest local hangs out to find other singles feeling frisky. When you arrive scan the room for a potential flirt. What next? Fast flirting is all about shedding inhibitions and using your wit and innuendo to capture the attention of the singles you’re meeting in person. If you need to brush up on your technique or starting from square one, here are flirt tips that will work for both men and women.

Sight:

Eyes are the first key to fast flirting. Use yours seductively, with glances to catch the attention of your desired target. A smile is a powerful visual hint that you are interested, and it’s often irresistible. If they smile back to hold their glance a little longer. Does he or she keep smiling? If your instinct says it’s real, come closer to say hello. Make a visual connection and then move forward.

Sound:

As important as what you say is how you sound. It’s often glossed over, but the moment you speak to someone their impression of you changes. Does your voice match what they expected? Do you have a deep baritone in a small body? Do you usually speak in a monotone? Work with a friend to practice a sexy voice. It doesn’t need to come across as completely natural, but it shouldn’t laugh out loud funny when you speak. Find your sultry voice and bring it into play while fast flirting.

Speak:

Fast flirting works best when you are prepared. Have a few lines ready (try to be unique) as well as have some funny stories to tell if you get to extend the flirtation. You want to come across as open, interesting, attractive, and likable. Pay attention to body language while you speak. Don’t hunch over. Lean back casually and gesture a bit as you talk, to show that you are relaxed. Don’t rush your words. Give real compliments rather than fake ones. People notice the difference.

Touch:

Know your audience. Flirting works a little differently between the sexes. We are taught to flirt in a certain way, and sometimes it leads to miscommunication when we’re trying to achieve connection. For example, a woman can casually touch a man during a fast flirting interaction, but a man should not touch a woman during a first flirt. Like it or not, women and men have very different experiences, and respecting her boundaries will get you farther than trying to brush her hand unexpectedly. How can you create a potential touch moment that does not infringe on her territory? If you offer her your number you can brush your fingers and hers when you hand her the paper. It’s retro, but it’s a classic move.

Just keep in mind that sight, sound, speech, and touch are the keys to fast flirting success. Use them to unlock your full flirting potential.

This was posted in Bdaily's Members' News section by Sandra Baker .